My mom is not long for this world.
Life is full of challenges and adversity. The struggle is real AND it’s all relative.
That teenage girl whose boyfriend just broke up with her is just as bummed out as I am right now. We both feel devastated. Life gives you perspective as you get older though so it takes bigger things to knock you on your butt. The reality is, we all feel overwhelmed sometimes and wonder how we’re going to do what needs doin.
The last several months have been filled with countless trips to Southern Utah (where my folks live), me taking over their finances (that was always moms’ job) and all the worry and sadness that comes with watching someone you love suffer.
Add to that what was already a full but wonderful life of 7 children, 12 grandchildren (13 is on the way! Yaaa) and 2 businesses, I’ve wondered on more than one occasion how I was going to do this.
I thought to tell you about all the support I have had from my kids and the people I work with and it started sounding like a big thank you speech. Suffice to say I am blessed!
What I want to talk about here is how we handle the mental and emotional side of being overwhelmed. Where your mind is so goes your heart. If you want to feel happy or hopeful or capable etc. you start with how you think.
If you are dwelling on the problem and the misery guess what? Your emotions will follow. EVERYTHING begins in your mind. Let’s start by calming that sucker down and clearing out the junk.
1 – Take 10 minutes to meditate every day.
You don’t have to sit in that Buddha position if you don’t want to.
I like to lay on my back with my legs on a chair at 90* so my back is flat. I imagine laying in a hammock on a beautiful spring day on a hill overlooking a lake in the mountains.
For you it might be a bubble bath, Yoga, running, listening to soft music or sounds of the ocean or blanking out in your car before you walk in the house after work.
You get the idea. Find your happy place. That 10 minutes of brain peace is huge!
2 – Have some fun!
Movie, date night, snuggling with your sugar pie, pickle ball or the gun range or working out. The point is, don’t take life too seriously. Have some fun along the way.
3 – Positive self talk.
This is a big one. If you think it, you are it. So why not think great things?
It’s easy to get in the habit of negative thinking. Let’s change that.
I have this 3/1 thing I like to do. If your habit is to think something negative then every time you do that, replace it with 3 positives.
Example; Negative= No way I can handle this. 3 Positives= I’ve got this. *I am organized and healthy. *I have the support of family and friends. I will utilize them.
4 – Count your blessings.
The list is endless. If you don’t think so you aren’t looking hard enough.
Look for and contemplate on all the positives in your life.
At the end of it all…
…the things that add to my to do list, work, family, exercise… have been the very things that have kept me uplifted and sane through all this.
Seeing all those happy faces at Apollo, feeling the love and support of my beautiful children and grandchildren and the physical well being I feel from being healthy as I work out and eat well.
I guess it’s all in how you look at it right?
Since I wrote this my mom has passed. She was a beautiful woman who dedicated her life to serving others. She says, “It’s not where we are but where we are going that matters. We ought to be lending a helping hand to each other as we walk the path.” I love you mom.